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Reality: 改变需要厚脸皮  | 2023.5.23

Happy Reality Day! 你上周过的如何?希望这3分钟的现实,可以带给你1%的快乐 ↓




你想辞职,你爸妈朋友都在反对,说就业环境这么差,你一时半会能有目前的收入吗,过几年再想上班没公司愿意要你了, 你该赶紧攒钱买房结婚了。这时候你能有厚脸皮,不在意这些说法吗?








– Derek Sivers, Anti-chameleon













Ted Wild

PS: 我是如何用30个小时自学会蛙泳、自由泳、踩水的

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Reality: You need a thick skin to change  | 2023.5.23

Happy Reality Day! Here is your weekly dose of reality to help you live 1% happier.

1 Insight From Me

Change requires a strong heart (or a thick skin), because as soon as you try to change, people around you will stop you in all kinds of ways.

Say you want to focus more on your side hustle instead of your day job. Your subordinates will scold you for not solving problems. People in other departments will be jealous of you, saying that they are working overtime but you check off on the clock. Your boss will threaten to fire you. There will be cursing in your face, stabbing behind your back, and all kinds of dirty tricks. Can you have a thick skin, withstand these pressures and do what you want to do?

Say you want to quit your job. Your parents will say that the employment environment is so bad, you will not be able to pay your bills for a while, and if you want to go back to work in a few years, no company will want you, you should kill the thought and save money to buy a house and get married. Can you have a thick skin and not care about these claims?

Say you want to end your relationship with your boyfriend because you know it is wrong. Your friend said that you two have been together for 3 years, to leave now will be a big loss! Can you find another man that is guaranteed to be better than this one? You are not young, it is time to get married! Everyone is flawed, he could change. Can you have a thick skin and not hesitate?

Each of us has a voice in our hearts that guides us and tells us which path ahead is the right one. But if you want to walk the path guided by this voice, you need a strong heart and a thick skin to break through the thorns on the road.

Can you do it?

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1 Insight From Others

“I hear I’m not supposed to react like this. I’m supposed to be the same, no matter what’s around.

But I’m not the same from day to day, even when alone. I rebel against myself, too. If I’ve been thinking or acting one way for too long, I try another way.

It’s worked pretty well for me so far. I’m super-motivated by the horror of seeing the opposite of what I want.”

– Derek Sivers, Anti-chameleon

1 Small Step To Take

“Resistance Recognition”:

In the next week, try tell the people around you about the changes you want to make. It can be parents, friends, or colleagues. The goal is to see their reactions.

If the reaction is resistance, try clearly see through whatever form the resistance takes and tell yourself, “This is a resistance to my wanting to make a change.”

Why do people want to stop you from changing? Because on the one hand, they themselves are afraid of change, so they are actually telling themselves the world outside is too dangerous. On the other hand, people actually don’t like other people in their environment who live better than themselves, so they will try to prevent you from leaving the environment.

Do you find this issue of Reality helpful? Leave a reply to this email, I check every reply in my inbox.

Until next week,

Ted Wild

PS: Article:How To Live In The Now