The Reality

by TED WILD

“3 minutes to live 1% happier”

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Reality: 道法自然,尽情去玩

tedwild.com  | 2023.5.4

Happy Reality Day! 开始本周3分钟的现实, 1%的快乐 ↓


1个我的领悟

你上一次尽情地玩是什么时候?“玩”这个东西在你看来是不是一种对时间的浪费、充满愧疚感?

其实玩是人类天生的、最自然的生活方式。我们的祖先每天除了搞吃的,剩下的时间就是玩、休息、创作、聊天。

而这几种东西现在都变成了奢侈品。

玩不是可选项,是必需品

经常尽情地玩对人的心理健康、身体健康、心智发展都有非常大的好处,所谓“玩的好才能工作好”是有科学依据的。类似的还有睡觉,我们以前以为睡觉就是一种没什么卵用的浪费时间的东西,后来才发现人睡觉的时候其实大脑在不停地强化记忆,修复身体的很多组织。长期欠觉的人大脑会变迟钝,免疫力会下降,各种疾病都会慢慢找来。

其实很多人类最自然的生活方式,我们小时候都是会的,但是长大了以后,我们反而忘记了,或者说压抑了自己的这些天性。

因为我们想看起来“成熟”,“合群”。

长期违背天性,积累身心疾病,然后再找中医调理,西医看病,这就是我们目前的生活方式。

道法自然,尽情去玩。

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1个其他人的领悟

“玩耍可以塑造我们的大脑,帮助我们培养同理心,帮助我们驾驭复杂的社会群体,同时也是创造力的核心。”

“从长远来看,没有娱乐就没有工作。”

“玩耍的反面不是工作——玩耍的反面是抑郁。”

– Dr. Stuart Brown


1个问你自己的问题

目前你经常地尽情玩一下的最大阻碍是什么?是你经常加班的工作吗?

如果是工作的话,那你工作又是为了得到什么?是更大的房子?买个什么东西?

这些东西能带给你真正想要的东西吗?

是什么让你连活的像个人这种基本需求都达不到?

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1个小尝试

“可乐时间”

每天都要做一件你期待的、让你放松的小事情,我叫它“可乐时间”。

可以是喝着可乐,看一集你喜欢的电视剧

可以是晚上给自己买一个冰激凌

可以是打一会儿羽毛球

可以是玩一局游戏

可以是扒拉一会儿吉他

可以是嚎两嗓子……

总之是让你期待的、放松的一件事情。每天都要有。

一个月后,你会感谢自己的。

加入Reality

每周3分钟的现实,1%的快乐,只有周报才有

没有垃圾,只有全网难找的干货.


看完有啥想法没?可以直接回复这个邮件,我会看邮箱里的每一个回复。

下周见,

Ted Wild


PS: 被陌生人骂了怎么办?

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Reality: Play your way to a better life

tedwild.com  | 2023.5.4

Happy Reality Day! Here is your weekly dose of reality to help you live 1% happier.


1 Insight From Me

When was the last time you played wholeheartedly? Does “playing” seem to you a waste of time and full of guilt?

Playing is a natural way of living for human beings. After hunting and eating, our ancestors spent the rest of their time playing, chilling, creating, and chatting.

But somehow these basic simple things have now become luxury.

Playing is not an option, it is a necessity.

Playing often and heartily is of great benefit to people’s mental health, physical health, and intelligence. “Play well so you can work well” is backed by science.

Playing is similar to sleeping. We used to think that sleeping is basically a waste of time, but later we discovered that when people sleep, the brain is actually constantly forming memories and repairing tissues. People who do not sleep enough for a long time will have dull brains, weakened immunity, and various diseases will gradually appear.

In fact, we were good at all of these natural ways of living, but we forget or suppress many of them as we grow up.

Because we want to be “mature” and “fit in”.

Going against nature, accumulating physical and mental diseases, then taking a lot of pills and cutting ourselves with medical treatment, this is our current lifestyle.

Play your way to a better life.

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1 Insight From Others

“Play shapes our brain, helps us foster empathy, helps us navigate complex social groups, and is at the core of creativity and innovation. “

True play that comes from our own inner needs and desires is the only path to finding lasting joy and satisfaction in our work. In the long run, work does not work without play.”

“The opposite of play is not work – the opposite of play is depression.”

– Dr. Stuart Brown


1 Question For Yourself

What’s currently the biggest obstacle for you to play wholeheartedly on a regular basis? Is it a job where you often work overtime?

If it is, what are you working for? Is it a bigger house? Something you want to buy?

Do these things bring you what you really want?

What makes you unable to live like a basic human being?

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1 Small Step To Take

“Coke Time”:

Do one small thing that you look forward to every day which relaxes you, I call it “Coke time”.

It could be watching an episode of your favorite TV show while drinking Coca-Cola

Could be buying yourself an ice cream tonight

Could be playing badminton for a while

Could be playing a game

Could be striking the guitar for a while

Could be singing (or yelling) couple of times, etc.

Anyway, something that you look forward to and relax you. Every day.

You’ll thank yourself a month later.


Do you find this issue of Reality helpful? Leave a reply to this email, I check every reply in my inbox.

Until next week,

Ted Wild


PS: Fresh article I wrote:Why Self-help Books Fail To Help