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by TED WILD

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Reality: 输入的快乐永远不如输出

tedwild.com  | 2023.6.7

Happy Reality Day! 你上周过的咋样?希望这3分钟的现实,可以带给你1%的快乐 ↓


1个我的领悟

输入的快乐永远不如输出。

刷视频,看电影,玩游戏,看书,听音乐,旅游,学习是输入;

写东西,拍视频,画画,做饭,做手工,玩乐器,唱歌是输出。

输入是消费,输出是创造;

输入是被动的,输出是主动的;

输入是已有的,输出是创新的。

输入的快乐只能持续很短时间,而输出的快乐能持续很长时间。

输入是多巴胺型快乐,而输出还有内啡肽型快乐。

多巴胺型快乐持续时间短,而且有一个致命的隐藏特征——在平静下来后,多巴胺并不是恢复到之前的水平,而是会比之前低一点。就是低的这一点打开了潘多拉的盒子,让你永远不能满足,只会越来越上瘾。

而内啡肽型快乐持续时间长,让你获得快乐的同时,还能获得成长。

输出是创造,而人的天性就是喜欢创造、需要创造的。咱们几万年前的祖先编贝壳项链,做骨头风笛,画岩洞壁画,砸石头手斧,吃的穿的用的玩的,都是自己创造的。而我们现在这个社会输入很多,啥也不干都有一辈子看不完的视频、电影、书,听不完的音乐,刷不完的帖子,玩不完的游戏,刺激又多还又强,所以我们更多地依赖不用动脑子的、躺着就能获得的输入刺激来获取多巴胺型快乐,而不是通过创造获取内啡肽型快乐。

而这里最大的问题不是我们不会创造,而是根本没有“想过”要创造,没有“我要搞点啥”的意识。

而因为人都是逼出来的,所以很多本来能创造出很多厉害的东西的人,都在手机的上下划动中,划过了自己的人生。

1个其他人的领悟

任何拒绝即时满足而是选择了长期成长的行为,或者说任何来自于我们更高级别天性的行为,都能培育更多成功的可能性。

— Steven Pressfield, The War of Art

1个小尝试

“搞起来”:

想一件你一直想尝试去搞的事,然后只做一点点,只要开始就是胜利:

想写文章?写只有一段话的日记就算;

想画画?拿张纸,别看什么教程,想到啥拿起笔就画;

想学做饭?买几样菜一并扔到锅里就开始炒,做熟就行;

想学语言?跟着一个入门视频学完就算。

搞起来。

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看完有啥想法没?可以直接回复这个邮件,我会看邮箱里的每一个回复。有其他想法也欢迎随时联系。

下周见,

Ted Wild


PS: 对待别人的态度

PPS:最近肋骨断了一根,每天还是正常上班,正常游泳,唯一的不同是我经常一边捂着胸口,一边面目狰狞,一边“啊~啊~”的惨叫。可能是叫声太淫荡,周围的人都一脸逼视又一脸好奇地盯着我。

你问我说这个事情的意义是啥?没有意义,干嘛做啥事情都要追求个意义,那是没安全感的体现。

(意义是突出态王这个角色百折不挠的坚强意志和脸皮较厚的美好品德。)

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Reality: Output Instead of Input

tedwild.com  | 2023.6.7

Happy Reality Day! Here is your weekly dose of reality to help you live 1% happier.


1 Insight From Me

The happiness of input is never as good as output.

Watch videos, movies, play games, read books, listen to music, travel, and study are inputs;

Writing, shooting videos, drawing, cooking, doing handicrafts, playing musical instruments, and singing are outputs.

Input is consumption, output is creation;

Input is passive, output is active;

Input is existing, output is new.

Input happiness lasts only a short time, while output happiness lasts a long time.

Input is dopamine-type pleasure, output is endorphin-type pleasure.

Dopamine-type pleasures are short-lived and have a fatal hidden feature—after calming down, dopamine does not return to the previous level, but a little lower than before. This lower point opens Pandora’s box, leaving you never satisfied, only more and more addicted.

The endorphin-type happiness lasts for a long time, allowing you to grow while enjoying pleasure.

Output is creation, and human likes to create and needs to create by nature. Our ancestors tens of thousands of years ago weaved shell necklaces, made bone bagpipes, painted cave paintings, smashed stones into hand axes, and created everything by themselves. But in our current society, there is a lot of input. Endless videos, movies, books, music, posts, and games that you can’t consume in your whole life. So we rely more on non-braining input stimuli that can be obtained while lying down for dopamine-type pleasure, rather than creating endorphin-type pleasure.

The biggest problem here is not that we don’t know how to create, but that we don’t “think” about creating at all, we don’t have the mindset of “I want to create something”.

And because people are forced to change, many people who could have created many beautiful things just swiped away their lives as they swipe the screens.

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1 Insight From Others

“In other words, any act that rejects immediate gratification in favor of long-term growth, health, or integrity. Or, expressed another way, any act that derives from our higher nature instead of our lower. Any of these will elicit Resistance.”

— Steven Pressfield, The War of Art


1 Small Step To Take

“Just start”:

Think of one thing you’ve always wanted to try, and do it just a little bit, just to start is a win:

Want to write? Just write a diary with only one sentence;

Want to draw? Take a piece of paper, don’t read any tutorials, pick up a pen and draw whatever comes to mind;

Want to learn to cook? Buy a few ingredients, throw them into the pot and start frying;

Want to learn a language? Just follow an introductory video and learn it.

Just start.


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Until next week,

Ted Wild


PS: Article:How Self-help Really Works – The ASASA Model

PPS:

I broke one of my ribs recently. I still go to work and swim every day. The only difference is that I often hold my chest and scream “ah~ah~” with an ugly expression. Maybe it was because the scream was too kinky, people all staring at me with disgust and curiosity.

What is the meaning of this short story? There is no meaning, why do you have to get a meaning in everything you do, that is a sign of insecurity.

(The meaning is to highlight the firm will and thick skin of the character Ted Wild.)